In person or by video? How to choose for your kid
Video therapy works well for a lot of people. For some kids and teens it is the only thing that fits their schedule, and that is a good reason to use it. But it is not the right fit for everyone, and it helps to know the difference before you pick.
Why in person can help
Some kids open up more in a room with a real person. Body language, a calm space, a pause that does not feel awkward on a screen. For younger children especially, sitting in the same room can make it easier to play, draw, and talk. Here is how we work with kids.
Teens are different
Teens are different. Some would rather talk through a screen from their own room, and others spend all day on screens and are tired of them. Neither is wrong. What matters is that your teen feels comfortable enough to actually show up and talk. Here is how we work with teens.
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Questions that can help you decide
A few questions that can help you decide. Does your kid warm up slowly with new people? Is it hard for them to stay focused on a screen? Do they have a private, quiet spot at home for a video call? Would a short drive after school feel like a reset or a hassle? Your answers say a lot.
You don't have to pick one for good
At Creative Connections, you do not have to pick one for good. We offer in-person sessions at our Newhall office and video sessions, and you can talk with us about what is working and change it if it is not.
A quick comparison
In person tends to suit younger children, kids who warm up slowly, and anyone who uses play, drawing or movement to express themselves. It also gives your child a break from home and a clear signal that this time is just for them. Video tends to suit busy teens, kids who feel more at ease in their own space, families with long commutes, and weeks when someone is sick or traveling.
How to set up a video session so it works
Choose a private spot where your child will not be overheard, such as a bedroom with the door closed or a parked car. Test the connection beforehand, and use headphones if others are home. Leave a few quiet minutes before and after so your child is not dropped straight in or yanked straight out. For younger kids, keep a few drawing supplies or a fidget within reach.
Making the drive worth it
If you choose in-person, treat the ride as part of the routine. Pick a time that does not squeeze your schedule, bring a snack, and let the ride home be low-pressure. Skip the "how did it go?" and try something like "I'm glad we came."
How to tell if the format is working
After three or four sessions, check in. Is your child showing up willingly? Are they talking more, or at least less guarded? Is the format helping or getting in the way? If it is not working, say so and try the other. A switch is a normal adjustment, not a failure.
Questions parents ask
Can we mix both? Yes. Many families do in-person most weeks and switch to video for sick days or busy weeks.
Which is better for a first session? There is no rule, but many younger kids settle in more easily in person. Teens often decide for themselves.
Is the cost different? Ask us. Clients 25 and under may qualify for no-cost therapy either way, and our client care coordinator checks coverage before the first session.
If your child or teen is 25 or under, you may also qualify for no-cost care through a California state-funded program.
If you ever feel unsafe or in crisis, call or text 988 or go to your nearest emergency room.
Not sure which way to go? Text us at 661-383-2252 and we'll walk you through it. Your first step can be a free 15 minute consultation by text.
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Creative Connections, 24325 Main Street, Ste. 102, Newhall, CA 91321