What to expect at your child's first therapy session
If you're a parent, the first session can feel like a big step. You may wonder what your child will be asked, whether you'll be in the room, and how to prepare them. Here's what it usually looks like.
The first visit is about getting comfortable
The first visit is mostly about getting comfortable. The therapist gets to know your child, and your child gets to know the therapist and the space. Younger kids often use play, drawing or games, and there's no pressure to say the right thing.
You don't have to cover everything in the first session. Your child's history, and the full story of what's been going on, can come out a little at a time. Hearing it over several sessions is normal, and it often helps kids feel safe enough to share more.
Parents are part of the process
Depending on your child's age, the therapist may start by talking with you, spend time with your child, and then check in with you both at the end. You'll have a chance to share what you've noticed and what you hope will change. Parents are part of the process from the start, not just the ride to the appointment.
How you can help them get ready
Keep the message simple and calm. You can tell your child they're going to meet someone whose job is to help kids, and that there's no wrong way to do it. It's okay to say you don't know exactly what will happen.
What to say, by age
The right words depend on how old your child is. A few simple scripts you can adjust:
Younger kids: "We're going to meet someone whose job is to help kids with big feelings. You'll get to play and draw, and I'll be nearby." Tweens: "This is a person you can talk to about anything on your mind. You don't have to say anything you don't want to." Teens: "I think it might help to have someone in your corner who isn't me. You get a say in who it is, and we can try it and see."
Whatever the age, keep it short, tell the truth, and avoid framing therapy as a punishment or something being "wrong" with them.
A day-of checklist
Plan to arrive a few minutes early so no one is rushed. Bring your insurance card if you are using it, and a list of your top two or three concerns. Have a snack and water handy, since hungry kids have a harder time. If it is a video session, set up a private spot and test the connection. Keep the rest of the day light if you can.
Questions to ask the therapist
Ask how they will get to know your child, how they handle privacy, how and when you will hear updates, and what you can do at home between sessions. If anything has changed recently, such as a move, a loss or a school change, say so early.
What if my child clams up?
This is completely normal. Many kids say very little in the first session, and a good therapist expects that. Silence does not mean it is not working. Drawing, play and gentle questions can help them warm up. Try not to fill the quiet for them or pressure them to "just say something."
What to say afterward
Skip the interrogation. A simple "Thanks for doing that" is plenty. If your child wants to talk, listen. If not, give them time. Maybe pick up a treat on the way home and let the ride be easy. Your calm sends the message that this is a safe thing to do.
Questions parents ask
Should I stay in the room? It depends on age and the therapist's approach. Ask ahead of time.
What if my child does not like the therapist? Tell us. Fit matters, and we would rather adjust than have your child stop going.
How do we get started? Text 661-383-2252 or book a free 15 minute consult.
Where we are
Our Newhall office is easy to reach from Valencia, Saugus, Canyon Country and Stevenson Ranch, and video is an option for many families. Kids, teens and young adults 25 and under may qualify for therapy at no cost to your family.
To get started, text us at 661-383-2252 and we'll help you choose a therapist who fits your child.
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